- Don’t take other’s behavior personally
Keep neocortex in gear
* Focus on breathing *
Stop talking
Catch your breath. - Give the dilemma purpose and meaning.
What do I need to learn?
What coping resources do I have?
What similar challenges have I faced successfully in the past? - If you can’t regulate your emotions, control your behavior
- Stop mental tapes (“Awfulizing the situation”)
- Take a time-out
- Self care
Self Soothing does not involve self indulgence, emotional regression, or food/substance binging.