Self Soothing

  1. Don’t take other’s behavior personally
    Keep neocortex in gear
    * Focus on breathing *
    Stop talking
    Catch your breath.
  2. Give the dilemma purpose and meaning.
    What do I need to learn?
    What coping resources do I have?
    What similar challenges have I faced successfully in the past?
  3. If you can’t regulate your emotions, control your behavior
  4. Stop mental tapes (“Awfulizing the situation”)
  5. Take a time-out
  6. Self care

Self Soothing does not involve self indulgence, emotional regression, or food/substance binging.



Primary Goals sits at the intersection of three core ideas about communication:
  • Leaders create vision by communicating a compelling future to their teams.
  • Teams create success based on how effectively the communicate and coordinate with each other.
  • Entrepreneurial ventures are successful only when they communicate value to people with a concern that the business can take care of
In all cases, it’s about Conversations for Committed Results.  That’s our Primary Goal.  



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