| Vent (Express) | Carve out the time to vent — don’t be rushed. Ask permission to vent first, rather than simply dumping a load on the other. Venting includes Listening and checking the other for impact (V-L-O-M-P) |
| Owning | Here’s my contribution to the mess… |
| Moccasins | This is what I think/feel it’s like to be in your shoes. |
| Plan | What’s the plan going forward; how do we do different or not repeat |
note: the V-O-M part is fluid, and may cycle multiple times until Planning comes naturally.